What is it that holds us back?

Is it fear? Although only 4 letters FEAR is a big word that is responsible for a lot of things.

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Fear is the reason you stay in the job you hate, fear is the reason you won’t openly share your views, fear is the reason you don’t end the relationship you know is no longer right for you, fear is the reason you don’t make plans, fear is the one thing keeping us in our comfort zone and stopping us from being our greatest self.

I saw comments from Will Smith on the subject that said:

“Fear is not real. The only place that fear can exist is in our thoughts of the future. It is a product of our imagination, causing us to fear things that do not at present and may not ever exist. That is near insanity. Do not misunderstand me, danger is very real but fear is a choice.”

Now that guy is a legend and hasn’t aged in about 20 years so I’m gona listen to him. He has made an amazing career for himself and will have gone through many scary challenges to get to where he is today and he oozes confidence. If I think of all the things I was afraid to do but did anyway I look back glad I did after realising the fear was unnecessary. There are also things I look back on where fear did hold me back and I wonder what could have been. There’s no point dwelling so instead I’m going to start facing my fears and stop letting it hold me back.

At work I teach Managers how to set stretch targets for their teams and the benefits of doing so. This is basically taking people past their fears and into new territory. If you stretch team members out of their comfort zone with the right support you will reap the rewards of a more skilled, engaged and motivated individual. Push them too far and it can end badly so take it slow and ensure you are taking steps and not leaping into the danger zone!

So how do we do this ourselves? I’ll start by telling you how I do this. I regularly evaluate where I am and where I want to be. I then make a note of steps I can take to help me reach the goal. I find it easier to Bullet Journal and use Level 10 Life Planning templates to track progress. I have a Pinterest Board that provides more information if you haven’t come across this before, the link is below. It’s basically just setting goals and marking the progress so it’s visible. Now if you start something like this and find you’ve stopped after a while that’s fine. I do that too sometimes, but when I get back into it, no matter how long it’s been I realise I’ve been missing it and as a result have been less focussed. I soon get back into the swing and on track. For any change to be successful it has to be done gradually over time so don’t rush off thinking you can change your life overnight because you can’t. But what you can do is make the effort everyday until you can look back and see you’ve made it. The tracking in a journal helps make you accountable and conscious of how much effort you are actually putting in.
Once you complete one goal you’ll be empowered and ready for the next challenge.

My advice to you would be, go easy on yourself and start small but be fully committed. Depending on what type of person you are you may want to take a different route. If you like quick wins, look for little things you can do to start seeing results. Quick wins are good for motivation and keeping on track. If you aren’t impressed by the little things and want to see big results then think… what would make the most positive impact on my life? Then write a list of 10 things you can do to help you reach it. Then go out there and start ticking them off. There’s only one thing holding you back and that’s you. Everybody else is busy trying to conquer their own goals, let them inspire you to reach yours.

If you are wondering what fears I am facing at the moment… I am sharing my thoughts and views with the world! Yes this blog is my way of facing some fears and insecurities that have been holding me back. I have met a few people recently who have inspired me to step out of my comfort zone and follow my dreams. I have a dream to help make a positive difference in people’s lives in whatever way I can. It’s a massive goal so I break it down into small chunks I can tackle with confidence. So far this year I have started a mentor programme at a local High School where I volunteer my time to help prepare them for the world of work. I have co delivered a session on Self Esteem and Avoiding Negative Peer Pressure with an amazing Life Coach at a Primary School. A case study on me has been used to promote a social enterprise and all the work they are doing and will hopefully drum up more volunteers to help our next generation. I have embarked on many more projects at work to help my amazing colleagues. And I always work to help my family and friends in any way I can. It might not seem like a lot but it is only March and each of these things are helping motivate me to do more.

Do you have any fears you want to face?


Click to view my Pinterest Board

– Bullet Journals

One thought on “What is it that holds us back?

  1. Oh wow Kimberley, I love this! Firstly, how beautiful is that photo you’ve taken, a talent right there. Secondly, you’ve already inspired young people with your story. Our stories are meant to be shared – the good & the not so good – you never know who you’re going to help with your story (I learned this recently from an amazing woman!). I’m already a fan of yours as you, after only a few meetings!
    Keep doing what you’re doing in the beautiful, genuine & authentic way that you do. I’m watching this space, you’re going to positive impact thousands of lives 💕💕


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